Tell Me Everything You Don't Remember

Tell Me Everything You Don't Remember

The Stroke That Changed My Life

Book - 2017
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A memoir of reinvention after a stroke at thirty-three, based on the author's viral Buzzfeed essay

Christine Hyung-Oak Lee woke up with a headache on New Year's Eve 2006. By that afternoon, she saw the world--quite literally--upside down. By New Year's Day, she was unable to form a coherent sentence. And after hours in the ER, days in the hospital, and multiple questions and tests, she learned that she had had a stroke. For months, Lee outsourced her memories to her notebook. It is from these memories that she has constructed this frank and compelling memoir.

In a precise and captivating narrative, Lee navigates fearlessly between chronologies, weaving her childhood humiliations and joys together with the story of the early days of her marria≥ and then later, in painstaking, painful, and unflinching detail, her stroke and every upset, temporary or permanent, that it causes.

Lee processes her stroke and illuminates the connection between memory and identity in an honest, meditative, and truly funny manner, utterly devoid of self-pity. And as she recovers, she begins to realize that this unexpected and devastating event provides a catalyst for coming to terms with her true self.

Publisher: New York, NY :, Ecco,, [2017]
Edition: First edition
Copyright Date: ♭2017
ISBN: 9780062422156
Characteristics: 262 pages


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rb3221 Sep 06, 2017

A courageous story and the emotional journey of a young stroke 'victim' filled with many lessons for all of us: how to survive with change in your identity and in your relationships. The books' structure, rambling and repetitive, is interesting as it mimmicks her thinking after the stroke. She says " I am not the author of my life. I do not control what happens to me...and there is more than one way back from a setback."
An inspirational and informative novel as we see her flaws and her slow journey to recovery.

May 02, 2017

A young woman in her early 30's suffers a debilitating stroke, and during treatment she learns she's lived with a hole in her heart since birth. The book is interesting, but also seemed really repetitive to me; so much so that I skimmed the last quarter of the book. Reading about her struggles with breathing as a child during hikes with her parents, for example, was interesting the first time she talked about it, but by the third or fourth time I felt it had already been covered. Her style of writing didn't appeal to me very much, particularly since there are so many bios out there describing personal medical challenges that reflect the personality of the writer in a more engaging way.

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